So i thought i would talk to you about everything both male and female go through in life, be it once or 100 times! I have had a few break ups them all meaning and ending for different reasons. I'm quite lucky in a way that i can get over people before i break up with them to just ease most of the pain. I like to think not every ones going to be right for you. there's over 64 million people in the UK alone and one of them are going to love me unconditionally. Unfortunately we don't always find that one person. But there is also more important things in life then having a boyfriend/girlfriend.
Ways to know your relationship isn't working:
- You argue over the smallest things alllll the time
- You think about other guys/gals
- You'd choose doing something (not important) then working around it for them
- You cheat or look at other guys/gals all the time
- They lie to you about the smallest things all the time
- They annoy you so much
- You don't feel comfortable & relaxed with them
- Your not bothered about seeing them anymore
- If you saw them walk off with another guy/gal you wouldn't be bothered
- You don't communicate with them anymore
- They make you cry or feel upset all the time
- You don't feel sexually attracted to them any more
- You stop dreaming about your future plans with this person
- Being affectionate towards them makes you feel sick (cuddling etc.)
Sometimes we don't realize that our relationships are over be that, we were supposed to be together forever, your young and its your first relationship, were scared of having a broken heart, or scared of being alone. But the truth is how your feeling now is like a long process of how you'll feel with a broken heart because it is already breaking slowly but surely. And luckily our hearts can be put back together again, you may always have a soft spot for that person but that doesn't mean you still love them it means you once did. If a person cheats in the relationship and acts like there still single that to me is the worst sort of news to happen in a relationship. Jealousy is the worst feeling in the world and trusting someone comes so easily but can go so easily and its always so hard to trust someone again.
I have been in two relationships where they have both cheated and i stayed with them, and it makes you feel so low and bruised inside. You don't feel sexy anymore and you feel like you have to prove yourself and be better then you already are for them. When for a matter of fact its them that are the dirty dogs not you. It can make relationships stronger but for some it can be the worst pain imaginable. Especially if they keep doing it again and again. I say you made your bed, now go lie in it. And just sit back and laugh at them, let him/her gallivant with other people its you that'll come out best not them. They have to live with the guilt of being a cheat and loosing you, you have to live with knowing you don't have that horrible person in your life any more.
Lies. Now this can be different i think for what sex you are (what iv'e witnessed) guys will know when a girl is lying to them and a girl will know the truth before they even know the lie. Were better then any detective when it comes to lies in a relationship because we will find out eventually and they will know when that happens ha ha. I used to test my boyfriends by asking them the simplest questions and seeing if they lie. If they do lie about the small things what are they hiding from you with the big things or anything else in general?
I find the best way to get over a relationship is to get over them while your still in the relationship. Write your feelings down about how they made you feel that day and what they had done wrong. And after a while read them back if you feel they have changed and things have got better and you feel better fair enough. But if it makes you think why did i let someone make me feel that way for so long etc, it can sometimes knock the nail on the head with getting over someone. By realizing they aren't worth the upset! Distract your self, find a hobby, go out with friends more, find better things in life.
Remember: "No person is worth the pain, only the happiness"
If someone doesn't make you happy don't waste your time and love on that person. Because you never know who's round the corner (it could even be Robert Pattison or Kiera Knightly) ha ha ha.
I hope this helped with some of you who are going through break ups or aren't sure if your relationship is working or your just curious. And i hope you all have a happy life,
Love Christina xox
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